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Love Spells to Heal a Broken Heart: A Spell Caster’s Guide to Mending and Manifesting
Introduction: The Sacred Alchemy of a Mended Heart
There are few pains in this life as sharp and as hollow as a broken heart. It is a grief that lives in the body—a weight in the chest, a coldness in the bones, a silence where laughter once lived. It is a universal sorrow, a sacred wound that has touched souls since the dawn of time. If you are reading these words, know that your pain is seen, it is valid, and you are not alone in this shadowland. My name is Baba Ali, and for decades, I have sat with souls like yours, guiding them through the sacred fire of heartbreak and back to the wholeness that is their birthright.
Many come to me seeking magic to reclaim a love that has been lost. But the deepest, most ancient magic does not work to bend the will of another; it works to reclaim the magnificent power of the self. The spells and rituals that follow are not tools of desperation. They are a profound journey of self-reclamation, a form of spiritual alchemy designed to transform the heavy lead of your grief into the radiant gold of self-love, wisdom, and resilience. This is not about getting someone back; it is about yourself.
Together, we will walk a sacred path. We will begin by understanding the spiritual nature of your pain, going deeper than the psychological ache. Then, I will guide you through three distinct phases of magical practice: first, cleansing the past and severing the ties that bind you to sorrow; second, rebuilding the inner temple of your heart through profound self-love; and finally, opening the door to a new love that truly mirrors the worth you have rediscovered within. This is your healing journey. Let us begin.
Understanding the Spiritual Anatomy of Heartbreak
To truly heal a wound, we must first understand its nature. Modern wisdom speaks of heartbreak through a psychological lens, offering the five stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—as a map to navigate the pain. This map is useful, for it names the territories of our sorrow. But it only describes the surface. Beneath these emotional states lies a deeper, spiritual wound that must be tended.
From a spell caster’s perspective, heartbreak is an energetic event. When we form a deep bond with another person, we create invisible, energetic cords that link our souls. These cords are conduits for love, intimacy, and shared experience. A breakup, especially an unexpected or painful one, is not just an emotional separation; it is a traumatic severing of these energetic ties. This leaves a palpable wound in our aura—our spiritual energy field—that bleeds vitality and leaves us feeling fragmented and lost.
This spiritual disruption echoes across every aspect of our being, which can be understood through four domains of spiritual health.
The Personal Domain: This is the realm of your relationship with yourself. Heartbreak causes a deep fracture here, leading to a loss of identity, a collapse of self-worth, and the painful question, “Who am I without them?”
The Communal Domain: This is the most obvious wound—the break in your primary interpersonal relationship. Its impact ripples outward, often straining friendships and family connections as we retreat into our pain.
The Environmental Domain: This is your connection to nature and the world around you. When the heart is broken, the world can seem to lose its color and vibrancy. The beauty of a sunset or the song of a bird can feel distant, even mocking.
The Transcendental Domain: This is your relationship with purpose, meaning, and the divine or universal energy. Heartbreak can trigger a profound crisis of faith, leaving you feeling abandoned by the universe and disconnected from any sense of a greater plan.
I remember a time in my own life, long ago, when a profound loss made the world lose its color. The moon, which had always been my confidant, felt like a cold stone in the sky. The herbs in my garden seemed to withhold their fragrance. This is the spiritual signature of heartbreak—a temporary forgetting of our own innate divinity and our connection to the whole. The spells that follow are designed to help you remember.
The Ethical Foundations of Healing Magic: The Spell Caster’s Oath
Before we light a single candle or whisper a single incantation, we must establish our ethical foundation. Magic is a sacred force, and like any great power, it must be wielded with wisdom, respect, and profound responsibility. The path to healing is paved with integrity; any other road leads only to more suffering.
The prime directive of all benevolent magic can be summarized in the ancient Wiccan Rede: “An it harm none, do what ye will”. This is the unbreakable oath that guides all true healing work.. The concept of “harm” extends beyond the physical. It includes emotional manipulation, psychological control, and any infringement upon the sacred free will of another being. Spells must never be used to force someone to love you, to return to you, or to feel something they do not authentically feel. Such actions do not create love; they create a spiritual prison, binding both the caster and the target in a web of chaotic, unintended consequences. Free will is a divine law, and to violate it is to work against the very fabric of the universe.
In the throes of anger and betrayal, the desire for retribution is a natural human emotion. You may be tempted to seek spells for revenge or to cause your former partner pain. I urge you to resist this path with all your strength. Many magical traditions believe in the Law of Threefold Return, a form of karma which states that whatever energy you send out—positive or negative—returns to you amplified, often threefold. A curse, therefore, is a self-inflicted wound. It pours poison into your own spiritual well, preventing your heart from ever truly healing and anchoring you to the very pain you wish to escape.
Therefore, the most powerful, effective, and ethically sound healing magic is always focused inward—on the self. The spells in this guide are designed for your healing, your growth, your empowerment, and your liberation. This is not a limitation; it is the very source of their immense power. By focusing on mending your own heart, you become a whole, radiant being, capable of attracting the love that is truly meant for you.
Phase 1: Cleansing the Wound – Spells to Release the Past
Our journey begins not with building, but with clearing. Before a new foundation can be laid, we must lovingly clear the debris of the relationship that was. This first phase of magic is dedicated to purification, release, and making sacred space within your heart for healing to take root. It is about acknowledging the past and then consciously letting it go, so it no longer has power over your present.
Timing Your Ritual: The Power of the Waning Moon
To align our work with the currents of nature, we will perform these cleansing rituals during the Waning Moon. This is the period from the day after the Full Moon until the New Moon, when the moon’s light in the sky is visibly decreasing. This lunar phase carries a powerful energy of banishing, releasing, letting go, and removing negative influences or illness. Just as the moon recedes from the sky, so too can we command the pain in our hearts to recede..
A Beginner’s Cord-Cutting Ritual: A Step-by-Step Guide
The most crucial first step in healing from a breakup is to ritually sever the unhealthy energetic cords that still connect you to your former partner. This ritual is not an act of aggression; it is an act of liberation, allowing both of you to move forward freely.
Materials:
Two candles (chime or taper candles work well). One to represent you, and one for your ex. Choose colors that feel right, but white for purity or black for banishing are common choices.
A single piece of natural string or black cotton thread, about one foot long.
A pair of scissors.
A fire-safe dish or plate to place the candles on.
The Steps:
Create Sacred Space: Find a quiet time and place where you will not be disturbed. Cleanse your area by opening a window to let in fresh air, or by burning some sage or Palo Santo and letting the smoke purify the room.
Set Up Your Altar: Place the two candles on your fire-safe plate, a few inches apart. Anoint your candle with a drop of oil if you wish, and formally name it for yourself. Do the same for the other candle, naming it for your ex.
Bind the Cords: Take the string and tie it from the wick or body of your candle to the other. As you do this, acknowledge that this cord represents the connection, both positive and negative, that you shared.
Intention and Visualization: Light both candles. Sit and gaze at the flame, allowing memories of the relationship to surface. Acknowledge the love and the lessons, the joy and the pain. See the string between the candles glowing with all of this shared energy. Now, shift your focus. See the cord as the unhealthy attachment that now drains your energy and keeps you tethered to the past.
The Cut: When you feel ready, take a deep breath. Pick up the scissors and state your intention aloud with conviction. You can use words like these: “With love and gratitude for all that was, I now release the ties that bind. I reclaim my energy. I reclaim my power. I set myself free, and I set you free. So be it”. With a single, decisive motion, cut the string in the middle. Feel the energetic release as the connection is severed.
Closure and Disposal: Allow your candle to burn down completely (if it is safe to do so). Once the ritual is over, take the other person’s candle (and its wax remnants) and the piece of cut cord attached to it, and dispose of them far away from your home. You can bury them, or simply place them in an outdoor trash can. This final act solidifies the separation.
A Banishing Bath Ritual to Wash Away Sorrow
Water is an ancient and powerful element of purification, used in healing rituals across countless cultures. This ritual bath is designed to cleanse your aura of residual sadness, anger, and emotional attachments, leaving you feeling spiritually refreshed and renewed.
Ingredients and Their Symbolism:
Sea Salt or Black Salt: A cup of salt is essential for purification and absorbing dense, negative energy from your aura.
Herbs of Cleansing: A handful of dried Rosemary (for remembrance and cleansing) and Basil (for protection and peace).
Soothing Oil: A few drops of a “Break-Up Oil” or simply Lavender essential oil to calm the heart and release emotional burdens.
A Black Candle: To be lit during the bath, its purpose is to act as a beacon, drawing in and absorbing all the negativity you are releasing.
The Steps:
Prepare your space. Bring your ingredients to the bathroom and light the black candle, placing it safely where it can burn while you bathe. Set a clear intention for the ritual: “I am here to wash away the past and cleanse my spirit.”
Begin to run a warm bath. As the tub fills, add the salt and herbs, stirring the water with your hand and infusing it with your intention. Add the drops of oil.
As you step into the bath, take a deep breath and exhale audibly. Feel the warmth of the water enveloping you like a comforting embrace.
Soak in the tub for at least 20 minutes. As you lie there, visualize all the pain, the heavy emotions, and the lingering energetic residue being drawn out of your body and into the water. See the water becoming cloudy with all that you are releasing.
When you feel complete, pull the drain plug but remain in the tub as the water drains away. Imagine all the sorrow, anger, and heartbreak flowing down the drain with the water, leaving your body and your energy field completely.
Once the tub is empty, you can rinse off in the shower if you wish. Gently pat yourself dry and anoint your body with a fresh, clean lotion or oil. Thank the element of water for its healing power.
The Fire Release Ritual: Transforming Pain into Power
Fire is the element of rapid change and transformation. This ritual uses the power of flame to take stagnant, painful emotions and memories and transmute them into liberated energy, turning your pain into a source of power.
Materials:
A fire-proof container, such as a cast-iron cauldron or a ceramic bowl.
A few sheets of parchment paper and a pen.
A black candle to symbolize banishing and transformation.
The Steps:
In your sacred space, light the black candle. Focus on its flame as a symbol of renewal and your own inner fire.
On the parchment paper, write down everything you wish to release from your heart. Do not hold back. Fill the pages with specific memories that haunt you, feelings of anger or betrayal, words that were left unsaid, and hopes for a future that will not come to pass. This act gives a final voice to your pain.
When you have written everything, read it all aloud one last time. Acknowledge these feelings fully, without judgment.
Carefully and safely, light a corner of the first piece of paper from the candle flame and drop it into your cauldron. Watch as the paper burns and the smoke rises, carrying away the energy of what was written. As it burns, you can chant a simple phrase like, “I release you, I am done”.
Continue this process until all the papers have been turned to ash. Sit for a moment and feel the lightness in your spirit. The weight that once held you back has now been transformed into strength.
Once the ashes are completely cool, take them outside. Scatter them in the wind or release them into a running stream or river, allowing the elements to carry the last remnants of your pain far away from you.
Phase 2: Mending the Self – Spells for Deep Self-Love
Having cleared the space once occupied by the old relationship, we now arrive at the most sacred and crucial part of our work: filling that space with love for oneself. So many of us seek love from others without first cultivating it within. This phase is about returning home to yourself, rebuilding your spiritual foundation, and remembering the profound, unconditional worth that is your birthright. A healed heart becomes a magnet for a healed love. An unhealed heart will only attract more lessons in pain. Be patient with your mending.
Timing Your Ritual: The Power of the Waxing Moon
For this constructive and creative work, we align ourselves with the Waxing Moon. This is the period from the day after the New Moon up to the Full Moon, when the moon’s light is visibly growing each night. This lunar phase is potent for all forms of constructive magic—spells for growth, attraction, beginnings, and building positive energy. As the moon waxes in the sky, so too can we grow the love within our own hearts.
The “Goddess in the Mirror” Self-Love Spell
Mirror magic is a potent tool for self-reflection, allowing us to confront and rewrite the stories we tell ourselves. After the rejection of a breakup, our self-image can be shattered. This spell is a fierce and loving act of reclamation, designed to help you see your own divinity reflected back at you.
Materials:
A body-length mirror, or one large enough to see most of yourself.
A red candle, the color of life force, passion, and radical self-love.
Rose essential oil, the scent of the heart, for healing and compassion.
Talcum powder or cornstarch.
The Steps:
Prepare the Temple: Anoint your red candle with a few drops of rose oil. Place it in a safe holder and light it as the only source of light in the room. This creates an intimate, sacred atmosphere.
The Reflection: Stand nude before the mirror. For the first few moments, simply observe. Your mind, conditioned by the breakup, may immediately offer criticism. Acknowledge these thoughts, but do not accept them as truth. For every negative thought that arises (“I am not enough,” “My body is flawed”), you must challenge it by speaking a counter-truth aloud (“I am whole and complete on my own,” “This body is a sacred temple that has carried me through everything”).
The Anointing: Take the talcum powder and begin to cover your body with it. As you do, visualize that you are a sculptor, and this powder is a sacred clay. You are not covering up flaws; you are revealing your true form—that of a god or goddess, a timeless statue of immense power and beauty.
The Release: Now, begin to gently dust the powder from your skin. With every motion, visualize all the self-criticism, shame, doubt, and the echoes of your ex’s judgment falling away with it. See it dissolving into harmless dust on the floor.
The Invocation: Once the powder is gone, stand tall. Arch your back, turn your face upward, and feel the love of the universe washing over you. Place your hands on your heart and repeat the following affirmations seven times, feeling the truth of the words resonate in your bones:
“I love my body exactly as it is. I love my mind exactly as it is. I love my spirit exactly as it is. I love myself exactly as I am. Blessed be the Divine within me.”
The Mended Heart Ritual: A Gentle Spell for Emotional Repair
Where the mirror spell is about fierce reclamation, this ritual is an act of gentle, tender care. It is a form of sympathetic magic, a creative process where the physical act of mending a symbolic heart helps to soothe and repair your emotional one.
Materials:
A piece of red or pink fabric (felt works well).
A pair of scissors.
A sheet of paper and a pen.
Glue.
A green candle, the color of healing and heart-centered energy.
Lavender incense, for its calming and peaceful properties.
The Steps:
Set the Intention: Light your green candle and the lavender incense. Take a few deep, calming breaths, breathing in peace and exhaling pain.
The Symbolic Wound: Draw a large heart on the paper. Next, cut a heart of a similar size from the fabric. Hold the fabric heart and allow yourself to think about the small and large hurts that have fractured your own heart. For each painful memory or feeling, cut the fabric heart until it is in several pieces.
The Mending: Look at the fragmented pieces. Take a deep breath. Now, begin the work of healing. One by one, take a piece of the fabric and glue it onto the heart you drew on the paper. As you place each piece, whisper the incantation: “By my magic and by my love, I mend my fractured heart”.
Weaving Wholeness: Continue until all the pieces are glued down. They may not fit perfectly; there will be gaps. Use your pen (in a matching red or pink) to draw lines connecting the pieces, filling in the gaps with patterns or words of love. Visualize your own emotional energy knitting itself back together, becoming stronger and more beautiful than before.
The Final Healing: When your mended heart is complete, snuff out the candle. Hold the paper heart to your own chest and feel its wholeness radiating into you. Repeat the phrase, “Patched and healed, love revealed,” until you feel a sense of peace and completion. Keep this mended heart in a journal or on your altar as a powerful testament to your resilience and your ability to heal yourself.
Phase 3: Opening the Door – Spells to Attract New, Healthy Love
You have cleansed the wound. You have mended your heart with self-love. Now, and only now, are you truly ready to invite new energy into your life. This final phase of magic is not about chasing, forcing, or capturing love. It is about becoming a radiant beacon. When you are whole and happy within yourself, you vibrate at a frequency that naturally attracts a partner who can meet you in that wholeness. This is the art of ethical attraction.
The Cardinal Rule: Manifest Qualities, Not Specific People
Before we proceed, we must revisit our most important ethical principle: you must never target a specific person with an attraction spell. To do so is to violate their free will, and the universe will not reward such an act with a healthy, balanced relationship. Furthermore, the person you are fixated on may not be the one who is truly for your highest good. The goal of this magic is to attract a partner who embodies the
qualities and values you desire, leaving the “who” and “how” up to the wisdom of the universe, which can see a much larger picture than we can.
The Pink Candle Spell to Attract Your Ideal Partner
This beautiful ritual acts as a magical broadcast to the universe. You are creating a clear, detailed signal of the kind of love you are ready to receive, drawing a compatible partner toward you.
Materials:
A new pink candle, the color of gentle, romantic, and heart-centered love.
A sheet of parchment paper and a pen.
A sharp object to inscribe the candle (a toothpick or pin will do).
A love-drawing oil. Rose or jasmine essential oil diluted in a carrier like almond or olive oil is perfect.
The Steps:
Timing is Key: Perform this spell on a Friday, the day of the week ruled by Venus, the planet of love. The ideal time is during the New Moon (for new beginnings) or the Waxing Moon (for growth and attraction).
Create Your List of Qualities: On your parchment paper, write a detailed list of the qualities, values, and characteristics you desire in a partner. Do not write a name. Instead, focus on the essence. Be specific and positive. For example, instead of “not a cheater,” write “completely loyal and devoted.” Instead of “not broke,” write “financially responsible and abundant.” Other examples include “a kind and compassionate heart,” “a wonderful sense of humor,” “shares my passion for hiking,” “communicates openly and honestly”.
Prepare the Candle: Using your sharp object, gently carve your name onto the side of the candle. You can also add symbols that represent love to you, such as a heart, the infinity symbol, or the astrological symbol for Venus (♀).
Anoint with Intention: Put a few drops of your love-drawing oil on your fingers. Anoint the candle by rubbing the oil from the top of the candle down to the middle, and then from the bottom up to the middle. This motion is crucial, as it draws energy to you and your intention. As you do this, visualize your ideal partner being drawn into your life.
The Ritual: Place the candle in a safe holder. Read your list of qualities aloud to the universe with feeling and conviction. Fold the paper three times toward you (another act of drawing in) and place it underneath the candle holder.
Light the Flame and Recite: Light the candle. As the flame grows, gaze into it and meditate on the feeling of being in the healthy, joyful, and loving relationship you desire. Feel it in your body as if it is already real. Then, speak your incantation:
“I open my heart to love, whole and free. By this flame, my ideal partner comes to me. A love that is kind, honest, and true, For the highest good of all, my wish comes through. So let it be.”
Completion: Allow the candle to burn down completely in a safe place. Once it has extinguished, you can take the folded paper and keep it on your altar, or bury it in your yard by your front door to welcome love in.
A No-Ingredient Visualization Spell for New Beginnings
This spell serves as a powerful reminder that the greatest magical tool you will ever possess is your own mind—your focused imagination and the emotion you pour into it. You need no external ingredients to send your call for love out into the cosmos.
Materials:
None needed, only a quiet space and your focused heart.
The Steps:
Find Your Center: On a Friday evening, preferably during a Full Moon when energies of manifestation are at their peak, find a comfortable place to sit or lie down where you will not be disturbed.
Calm the Mind: Close your eyes and focus on your breath. Take several long, slow, deep breaths, allowing the tension of the day and any lingering anxieties to melt away. Ground yourself in the present moment.
The Vivid Visualization: Begin to build a scene in your mind’s eye. Do not try to picture a specific person’s face. Instead, focus entirely on the feelings of being with your ideal partner.
Imagine their hand in yours. How does it feel? Strong, gentle, warm?
Imagine laughing together until your sides hurt. Hear the sound of that shared joy.
Imagine feeling completely safe and cherished as they hold you. Feel the peace and contentment in your body.
Imagine having an effortless conversation where you feel seen, heard, and understood.
Amplify the Emotion: As you build this sensory experience, allow the corresponding emotions—joy, love, security, passion, peace—to swell within you. Let this feeling become so powerful and real that it fills your entire being, from your heart to your fingertips. This emotion is the fuel for your spell.
Release with Trust: Hold this high-vibrational state for as long as you can. When you feel complete, take one final deep breath, and as you exhale, release the entire vision out into the universe. Do not cling to it. Release it with a feeling of gratitude and absolute trust that the universe has received your message and is already arranging the circumstances for your meeting. Know that it is done.
Weaving Magic with Mundane: Complementary Practices for a Whole Heart
True, lasting healing is not accomplished through grand rituals alone. It is woven in the quiet, consistent practices of our daily lives. Magic is most potent when it is supported by mundane action. These complementary practices will help you ground the energy of your spell work, integrate the lessons of your heartbreak, and maintain a state of spiritual and emotional well-being long after the candles have burned out.
The Power of the Pen: Journaling for Clarity and Release
Journaling is a magical act in its own right. It is the process of taking the chaotic, swirling energies of thought and emotion from within and grounding them onto the physical plane of paper. It is a sacred conversation with your own soul, a space for raw honesty, and a powerful tool for gaining clarity. Dedicate a notebook to your healing journey and use these prompts to guide your exploration.
Journal Prompts for Your Healing Journey:
For Understanding the Past:
What parts of my true self did I lose or make smaller in that relationship?
What were the red flags or signs the relationship wasn’t working that I can now see with clarity?
Write a letter to your past relationship, thanking it for the lessons it taught you (you will not send this).
For Processing the Present:
How am I feeling right now, in this present moment, without judgment? What is one small, kind thing I can do for myself today to honor this feeling?
What stage of grief do I feel I am in today (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance)?
For Building the Future:
What are my absolute non-negotiable boundaries for my next romantic relationship?
Describe in detail your ideal day, from the moment you wake up to the moment you go to sleep, as a whole and happy single person.
Write a letter to your future self, one year from now, describing how you have healed, grown, and the joy you have found.
Simple Daily Rituals for Energetic Maintenance
Grounding: Each morning, stand barefoot on the earth if you can (or simply on the floor) for one minute. Close your eyes and visualize roots growing from the soles of your feet deep into the center of the earth. Feel the stable, calming energy of the planet rise up into your body, anchoring you for the day.
Affirmations: Your words have the power to shape your reality. Look at yourself in the mirror each day and speak a positive truth aloud. Choose an affirmation that resonates for you, such as: “Divine Love and positive energy are flowing through me,” or “I am whole, I am healed, I am worthy of great love”.
Nature Connection: Make a point to spend even a few minutes in nature each day. This reconnects you to the Environmental domain of spiritual health. Pay attention to the intricate details—the veins on a leaf, the pattern of clouds, the feeling of a breeze. This practice gently pulls you out of your inner turmoil and back into the beautiful, living world.
A Note on Professional Support The spiritual practices and spells shared in this article are intended for personal empowerment and emotional support. They are part of a holistic approach to well-being and are not a substitute for professional medical, psychiatric, or psychological diagnosis and care. Heartbreak can sometimes trigger severe depression or other mental health challenges. If you are struggling to cope, feeling overwhelmed, or experiencing thoughts of self-harm, please honor your journey by seeking help from a licensed therapist, counselor, or other mental health professional. Reaching out for help is an act of profound strength and self-love.
Conclusion: You Are the Most Powerful Spell
We have walked a long path together—from the ashes of heartbreak to the altar of self-love. We have journeyed through the three sacred phases of healing: cleansing the past to make space, loving the present self to fill that space, and welcoming a new future from a place of wholeness. You have learned to cut the cords of what was, to mend the heart that is, and to call in the love that will be.
But the final and most important truth is this: the true magic was never in the candles, the herbs, or the phases of the moon. Those are simply tools, allies on your journey. The most potent spell, the most powerful magic in this entire process, has been you. It is your resilience. Your courage to face your pain and your willingness to do the sacred work of healing. Your capacity to love again, starting with yourself. That is the alchemy that transforms worlds.
Carry this knowledge in your heart. You are the spell caster, the intention, and the magic itself.
May your heart be whole. May your spirit be bright. And may the love you find be a perfect reflection of the magnificent love you are. So mote it be.
If this guide has served you, share your story of healing in the comments below. Your journey may be the light that guides another through the darkness.
About the Author: Baba Ali
Baba Ali is a Spiritual Healer and Guide who has practiced traditional healing arts for over 30 years. Drawing from the deep wells of his ancestral lineage and a lifetime of studying cross-cultural wisdom traditions, he offers a path to healing that is both ancient and profoundly relevant to the modern world.
He specializes in emotional and spiritual healing, particularly in the realms of heartbreak, grief, and self-reclamation. Baba Ali’s core philosophy is that all true magic is an act of finding the power that already resides within. His approach blends time-honored ritual with a deep, compassionate understanding of the human heart, guiding clients not just to perform spells, but to embody their own innate magic.
When not guiding others, Baba Ali can be found tending his extensive herb garden, reading by the fire, or walking in the woods near his home, forever a humble student of the magic of the natural world. To learn more about Baba Ali’s work or to book a personal consultation, Contact Baba Ali.
